People seek couples therapy sessions online for a variety of reasons. Some couples want to increase intimacy, feel closer, more connected, and/or more loving. Some couples need to navigate affairs and the painful discovery of betrayal. Meanwhile, others feel they have given their relationship their best shot and are ready to move on, and just want to do so amicably.

Online Couple's Sex Therapy

Some couples want to introduce more kink into their relationship, or to explore the differences in each other’s level of kinkiness. Sometimes one of the partners feels he or she is “addicted” to sex, and that their behavior is damaging to the relationship.

Sometimes genitals don’t do what couples want them to do, and sometimes sex is painful. Sometimes there is trauma that shows up in the bedroom and it’s difficult to talk about and work through. Some couples want to introduce a ‘third’ into their relationship, or explore non-monogamy. And finally, some couples are generally doing okay, and just want to see if they could be doing a little better. These are the things I work with on a daily basis!

What to Expect from Online Couple's Therapy

In our initial consultation call and first session, you’ll want to come up with goals.

Some goals are easy to measure - like we want to have sex every day, and other goals are less tangible, like we want to feel closer. The goals will also need to be realistic. If you are fighting twice a day, bear in mind that fighting twice per week is huge progress!

Once goals are established, I like to get a sense of who you are, the high points of your relationship, the challenges that you’ve overcome, the beautiful aspects about the distinct, special universe that the two of you share. We go over your sex life - past, present and future, and do so according to your level of comfort.

Finally, given the framework for who you are and what you want, we embark on the work of therapy.

During our sessions I model and elicit language that you can start to use to have generative conversations. I teach you to listen to each other, how to be mindful of how you show up (or don’t show up) for your partner, and how to be more validating and loving. I nudge you toward challenging conversations, and encourage you to reflect on what we discuss in between sessions. When appropriate I assign homework, and regularly check in to see how things are coming along.